COMFORT.GUIDE ....."I will heal him; I will guide him and restore comfort to him, creating praise on the lips of the mourners..." (Isaiah 57, NIV)
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    • WEEK 1 ... OUTLINE >
      • A WOMAN AT A WELL
      • SEEING OUR EARLY LOSSES CLEARLY
      • WHO DO YOU CRY OUT TO?
      • WHO IS HE???
      • PSALM 139
    • WEEK 2 ... OUTLINE >
      • LIVING IN BETHSAIDA
      • SEEING EARLY LOSSES, WITH AGES
      • WKSHEET - HEALING OF MEMORIES...
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    • WEEK THREE OUTLINE ... "TELLING MY STORY - I FELT" >
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      • THIS IS WHAT I DO!
      • P.S. - FAITH, FEELINGS & CANCER
    • WEEK FOUR OUTLINE ... "TELLING MY STORY - I FELT" >
      • EMMANUEL
      • SEEING OUR LOSSES CLEARLY - EXTENDED SCALE
      • DELIGHTING IN A VISIT
      • "WONDERFULLY MADE" - 2
  • WEEKS 5 & 6 - BRIDGE & OUTLINES
    • WEEK FIVE OUTLINE - TELLING MY STORY - "I FELT TO I LOST" >
      • NOTICING A WIDOW
      • COMPARING DIFFERENT VOICES
      • STAGES OF GRIEF
    • WEEK SIX OUTLINE - TELLING MY STORY - "I FELT TO I LOST" >
      • PETER - WAITING FOR INSPIRATION AND POWER!
      • THE HOLY SPIRIT
      • TELLING MY STORY - I LOST
      • MUST AND SHOULD
      • MINDFULLY ATTACHING TO GOD
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  • WEEKS 7 & 8 - BRIDGE & OUTLINES
    • WEEK SEVEN OUTLINE - “I CAME TO BELIEVE" >
      • WHAT IS ON HIS PALM?
      • TELLING MY STORY - I CAME TO BELIEVE
      • TELLING MY STORY - MUST AND SHOULD
      • GOOD SHEPHERD
    • WEEK EIGHT OUTLINE - “I CAME TO BELIEVE" >
      • A MAN WITH A SHRIVELED HAND
      • WOUNDED HEARTS THINK WOUNDING THOUGHTS
      • IDENTIFYING PERSONAL TRIGGERS/WORKSHEET
      • WHAT GRACE LOOKS LIKE
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  • WEEKS 9 & 10 - BRIDGE & OUTLINES
    • WEEK NINE OUTLINE - "TELLING MY STORY - I CAME TO BELIEVE TO I ACTED" >
      • THE WIDOW OF NAIN
      • TELLING MY STORY - I ACTED
      • UNFAILING LOVE, AND WORK
      • HE REACHES OUT FIRST
    • WEEK TEN OUTLINE - "TELLING MY STORY - I CAME TO BELIEVE TO I ACTED" >
      • INHERITANCE FOR SONS
      • DEFENSE MECHANISMS
      • INHERITANCE FOR WHOM?
      • A JOURNEY
  • WEEKS 11 & 12 - BRIDGE & OUTLINES
    • WEEK ELEVEN OUTLINE - "RENEWING MY MIND - FAITH, FEELINGS AND FORGIVENESS" >
      • TAKING JESUS AT HIS WORD/JAIRUS
      • TAKING JESUS AT HIS WORD/OFFICIAL
      • I WANT TO WALK!
      • GRACE FOR AN "OUTSIDER?"
    • WEEK TWELVE OUTLINE - "RENEWING MY MIND - FAITH, FEELINGS AND FORGIVENESS" >
      • WANTING TO GET WELL, OR?
      • FORGIVENESS/CHOICE
      • FORGIVE/COMFORT
  • WEEKS 13 & 14 - BRIDGE & OUTLINES
    • WEEK THIRTEEN OUTLINE - REWRITE - "I CAME TO BELIEVE ... AND I GAINED" >
      • ZACCHAEUS
      • REWRITE - CRYING OUT - SEEING OUR LOSS CLEARLY
      • MY SERVANT
    • WEEK FOURTEEN OUTLINE - "I CAME TO BELIEVE AND I GAINED" >
      • ARE YOU KNOWN?
      • REWRITE - TELLING MY STORY - I CAME TO BELEIVE
      • MUST AND SHOULD W/ SCRIPTURE
      • REWRITE - WOUNDED HEARTS THINK WOUNDING THOUGHTS
      • A FATHER'S DELIGHT
  • WEEKS 15 & 16 - BRIDGE & OUTLINES
    • WEEK FIFTEEN OUTLINE - RE-WRITE! “I GAINED” to “I AM SET FREE TO FEEL” >
      • GARDENING
      • USES OF MEMORY
      • RE-WRITE MY STORY - COMFORT AND HEALING OF MEMORIES
      • NATHANIEL AND A FIG TREE
    • WEEK SIXTEEN OUTLINE - RE-WRITE! "I GAINED" TO i AM SET FREE TO FEEL" >
      • HIS PLANS FOR US
      • RE-WRITE MY STORY - COMFORT AND HEALING OF MEMORIES
      • WHOSE PLANS ARE BETTER?
  • WEEKS 17 & 18 - BRIDGE & OUTLINES
    • WEEK SEVENTEEN OUTLINE - "BOUNCE!" >
      • A CHANGE OF PLANS
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WORKSHEET

Rewriting My Story - Crying Out to Him

A "WORKSHEET" is simply a way for you to look squarely at yourself and see where you are.  Like a GPS system in your car or in your phone, you have to know where you're at, honestly, clearly and completely. 

At the beginning of these worksheets, take time to pause and quiet yourself, breathing and relaxing as mentioned in the "HOW TO USE" tab.  This is a great time for reflection as to how to care for yourself.  Ask the Holy Spirit for inspiration and insight as you work through this worksheet.


Receiving Comfort: Inviting Jesus to rewrite this event/memory, as He sees it!


Invite Jesus to be present in the memories of events you recalled in the previous Worksheet, memories of events that were hurtful when they happened, and hurtful even up to today.

What does he say to each person in the memory? 

What does He do to each person in the memory?

How does He make a positive experience out of a negative experience?

When He works in our memories, this is when we are invited to a new belief system, and realize that "feelings" can come and go and change sometimes rapidly!  The Healing begins as we begin to depend more on BELIEFS than on FEELINGS!!! 



Listen to Him as He comforts feelings and begins to re-write the deeper truth in their place!!!

* Most importantly, what is the truth of this event through the heart and eyes of Jesus?

* How does His presence in these memories begin to change your feelings and especially beliefs about yourself and those involved?  

* How is His heart for you and those involved in this memory different from what you felt or came to believe?

* Regarding your memories about your past, what is the lie that the world and the enemy would want you accept as truth?

* On a personal note, hearing and seeing His perspective about this painful memory, how does that make you feel and believe about God's deep, personal care for you?


To help you even better see the real truth (e.g. who did what and why) of this event through the heart and eyes of Jesus, take a moment to answer the following...



I am coming to believe the following truths (e.g., I am a child of God, I am of great worth to Him, I am loved, I am forgiven, I am safe, I am not alone...)

I am becoming aware that my losses are being transformed to my following gains (e.g., a new hope, a closer relationship with Jesus, deeper empathy for myself and others, and freedom from: fear, bitterness and hopelessness...) 


Because I am changing my beliefs about past experiences, I am being set free to feel (e.g., hope, joy, peace, the presence of love...)

Because I can begin to rely on beliefs based on God's truth rather than my own changeable feelings, I am choosing the following healthy behaviors (e.g., to be able to give and receive love, able to self-care, able to set proper boundaries...)



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PROMISES
..... short Scriptures to build you up and give you hope!


“Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest.  Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls.  For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.”   (Matthew 11, NIV)

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