WORKSHEET
SEEING OUR LOSS CLEARLY – EXTENDED SCALE
A "WORKSHEET" is simply a way for you to look squarely at yourself and see where you are. Like a GPS system in your car or in your phone, you have to know where you're at, honestly, clearly and completely.
At the beginning of these worksheets, take time to pause and quiet yourself. This is a great time for reflection as to how to care for yourself. Ask the Holy Spirit for inspiration and insight as you work through this worksheet.
Worksheets can be printed so you can reflect on them later, or perhaps your device has the ability to make notes right on the Worksheet page, then you can save the Worksheet in your device for later review.
This particular worksheet will help you find more "feeling" words/language to express your losses of your human core needs. Place an "x" somewhere along the lines...
(Birth to 1 1/2 years old - Deeply Loved and Secure)
Mistrusting Trusting
0 --------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- 10
Unsafe Safe
0 ---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- 10
Rejected Loved
0 ---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- 10
Insecure Secure
0 ----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- 10
(1 1/2 to 3 years old - Accepted)
Inadequate Adequate
0 ----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- 10
Self-Doubt Self-Confidence
0 ----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- 10
(3 to 6 years old - Worthy)
Dependent Independent
0 ----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- 10
Invisible Visible
0 ----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- 10
Passive Assertive
0 ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------ 10
Guilty/Shameful Worthy
0 ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------ 10
(6 to 12 years old - Belonging and Capable)
Unaware of Gifts Aware of Gifts
0 ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------ 10`
Insignificant Significant
0 ----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- 10
Disrespected Respected
0 ----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- 10
Isolated Connected
0 ----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- 10
(12 to 18 years old - Significance and Purpose)
Irrelevant Influential
0 ----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- 10
Hopeless Hopeful
0 ----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- 10
Adapted from Erikson's "Psychosocial Stages of Development"
PAUSE AND REFLECT!
* Note those thoughts that tend to be positive.
* Note those thoughts that tend to be negative.
* Are you surprised by your responses?
* Ask yourself how your thinking has had an impact in the way:
- you view yourself,
- you view your relationships,
- you view God!
As we continue in Comfort.Guide, listen carefully as to how God wants to transform and heal the negative thoughts with His comfort, while at the same time reinforcing the positive thoughts.
Now that you have finished the worksheet, it’s a great time to talk with Jesus about what has become clearer to you. As you do this, remember that He is with you, He sees you, He hears your call for help, He understands you with deep empathy, and His heart of Love intervenes to work all things together for good.
And a good conversation goes both ways, so be sure to then listen for all the insights He has for you! He will make the Scriptures you need come alive, He may use songs, He may use images, He may use "word-pictures", etc., all prepared especially for you and only you at this time of your healing.
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