WORKSHEET
Wounded Hearts Think Wounding Thoughts - "REWRITE"
A "WORKSHEET" is simply a way for you to look squarely at yourself and see where you are. Like a GPS system in your car or in your phone, you have to know where you're at, honestly, clearly and completely.
At the beginning of these worksheets, take time to pause and quiet yourself. This is a great time for reflection as to how to care for yourself. Ask the Holy Spirit for inspiration and insight as you work through this worksheet.
Worksheets can be printed so you can reflect on them later, or perhaps your device has the ability to make notes right on the Worksheet page, then you can save the Worksheet in your device for later review.
We urge you now to go back to WEEK #1 and review the Worksheet entitled: “Crying Out - Seeing Our Loss Clearly”. Specifically, look at your answers THEN as opposed to what your answers would be TODAY on the same worksheet re-printed below!!! Your answers TODAY should reflect movement toward GAIN and away from LOSS!
Sometimes our thoughts come from freedom and are inspired by the heart and mind of God. However, at other times our thoughts and beliefs come from our own woundedness. This Worksheet will now build on that education, and help you distinguish your own thoughts from the types of thoughts and beliefs God would want you to have. This worksheet will help you identify, as you tell your story, what you lost and what you came to believe due to that wounding experience.
This Worksheet is designed to find out your thinking and feelings TODAY.
We have divided this Worksheet into five similar sections, each of them similar yet also distinct.
First, what do you think and feel about yourself?
Second, what do you think and feel towards others?
Third, what do think and feel that others think and feel about you?
Fourth, what do you think and feel about God?
Last, what do you think and feel that God thinks and feels about you?
We realize you might answer these questions differently as you think, for example, about different people. What you want to identify, however, is your overall thought patterns.
1) What do you think and feel about yourself? (such as "I don't trust myself") ... Place an “X” anywhere from the far left, toward the middle, or to the far right.
Mistrusting Trusting
0 ----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- 10
Unsafe Safe
0 ----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- 10
Rejected Loved
0 ----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- 10
Insecure Secure
0 ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------ 10
Inadequate Adequate
0 ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------ 10
Self-Doubt Self-Confidence
0 ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------ 10
Dependent Independent
0 ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------ 10
Invisible Visible
0 ----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- 10
Passive Assertive
0 ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------ 10
Guilty/Shameful Worthy
0 ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------ 10
Unaware of Gifts Aware of Gifts
0 ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------ 10
Insignificant Significant
0 ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------ 10
Disrespected Respected
0 ----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- 10
Isolated Connected
0 ----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- 10
Irrelevant Influential
0 ----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- 10
Hopeless Hopeful
0 ----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- 10
2) What do you think and feel towards others? (such as: "I don't trust others", “I often feel unsafe around others”) ... Place the letter “X” anywhere from the far left, toward the middle, or to the far right.
Mistrusting Trusting
0 ----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- 10
Unsafe Safe
0 ----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- 10
Rejected Loved
0 ----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- 10
Insecure Secure
0 ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------ 10
Inadequate Adequate
0 ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------ 10
Self-Doubt Self-Confidence
0 ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------ 10
Dependent Independent
0 ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------ 10
Invisible Visible
0 ----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- 10
Passive Assertive
0 ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------ 10
Guilty/Shameful Worthy
0 ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------ 10
Unaware of Gifts Aware of Gifts
0 ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------ 10
Insignificant Significant
0 ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------ 10
Disrespected Respected
0 ----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- 10
Isolated Connected
0 ----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- 10
Irrelevant Influential
0 ----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- 10
Hopeless Hopeful
0 ----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- 10
3) What do think and feel that others think and feel about you? (such as: "They don't trust me") … Place the letter “X” anywhere from the far left, toward the middle, or to the far right.
Mistrusting Trusting
0 ----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- 10
Unsafe Safe
0 ----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- 10
Rejected Loved
0 ----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- 10
Insecure Secure
0 ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------ 10
Inadequate Adequate
0 ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------ 10
Self-Doubt Self-Confidence
0 ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------ 10
Dependent Independent
0 ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------ 10
Invisible Visible
0 ----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- 10
Passive Assertive
0 ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------ 10
Guilty/Shameful Worthy
0 ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------ 10
Unaware of Gifts Aware of Gifts
0 ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------ 10
Insignificant Significant
0 ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------ 10
Disrespected Respected
0 ----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- 10
Isolated Connected
0 ----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- 10
Irrelevant Influential
0 ----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- 10
Hopeless Hopeful
0 ----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- 10
4) What do you think and feel about God? (such as: "I don't trust Him") … Place the letter “X” anywhere from the far left, toward the middle, or to the far right.
Mistrusting Trusting
0 ---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- 10
Unsafe Safe
0 ---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- 10
Rejected Loved
0 ---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- 10
Inadequate Adequate
0 ----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- 10
Self-Doubt Self-Confidence
0 ----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- 10
Dependent Independent
0 ----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- 10
Invisible Visible
0 ---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- 10
Passive Assertive
0 ----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- 10
Guilty/Shameful Worthy
0 ----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- 10
Unaware of Gifts Aware of Gifts
0 ----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- 10
5) What do you think and feel God thinks and feels about you? (such as: "He doesn’t trust me") … Place the letter “X” anywhere from the far left, toward the middle, or to the far right.
Mistrusting Trusting
0 --------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- 10
Unsafe Safe
0 ---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- 10
Rejected Loved
0 ---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- 10
Insecure Secure
0 ---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- 10
Inadequate Adequate
0 ----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- 10
Self-Doubt Self-Confidence
0 ----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- 10
Dependent Independent
0 ----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- 10
Invisible Visible
0 ---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- 10
Passive Assertive
0 ---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- 10
Guilty/Shameful Worthy
0 ---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- 10
Unaware of Gifts Aware of Gifts
0 ----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- 10
Adapted from Erikson's "Psychosocial Stages of Development"
PAUSE AND REFLECT!
* Note those thoughts and feelings that tend to be positive or negative in the way you answered these questions…
What do you think and feel about yourself?
What do you think and feel towards others?
What do think and feel others think and feel about you?
What do you think and feel about God?
What do you think and feel God thinks and feels about you?
As we continue in Comfort.Guide, listen carefully as to how God wants to transform and heal the negative thoughts with His comfort, while at the same time reinforcing the positive thoughts. If you are keeping a journal, this is the type of information you want to have!
Now that you have finished the worksheet, it’s a great time to talk with Jesus about what has become clearer to you. As you do this, remember that He is with you, He sees you, He hears your call for help, He understands you with deep empathy, and His heart of Love intervenes to work all things together for good.
And a good conversation goes both ways, so be sure to then listen for all the insights He has for you! He will make the Scriptures you need come alive, He may use songs, He may use images, He may use "word-pictures", etc., all prepared especially for you and only you at this time of your healing and growth!
Hear yourself, and Him, clearly!
Click HERE to go to "Week 14 Outline"
Click HERE to go to "A Father's Delight".
Wounded Hearts Think Wounding Thoughts - "REWRITE"
A "WORKSHEET" is simply a way for you to look squarely at yourself and see where you are. Like a GPS system in your car or in your phone, you have to know where you're at, honestly, clearly and completely.
At the beginning of these worksheets, take time to pause and quiet yourself. This is a great time for reflection as to how to care for yourself. Ask the Holy Spirit for inspiration and insight as you work through this worksheet.
Worksheets can be printed so you can reflect on them later, or perhaps your device has the ability to make notes right on the Worksheet page, then you can save the Worksheet in your device for later review.
We urge you now to go back to WEEK #1 and review the Worksheet entitled: “Crying Out - Seeing Our Loss Clearly”. Specifically, look at your answers THEN as opposed to what your answers would be TODAY on the same worksheet re-printed below!!! Your answers TODAY should reflect movement toward GAIN and away from LOSS!
Sometimes our thoughts come from freedom and are inspired by the heart and mind of God. However, at other times our thoughts and beliefs come from our own woundedness. This Worksheet will now build on that education, and help you distinguish your own thoughts from the types of thoughts and beliefs God would want you to have. This worksheet will help you identify, as you tell your story, what you lost and what you came to believe due to that wounding experience.
This Worksheet is designed to find out your thinking and feelings TODAY.
We have divided this Worksheet into five similar sections, each of them similar yet also distinct.
First, what do you think and feel about yourself?
Second, what do you think and feel towards others?
Third, what do think and feel that others think and feel about you?
Fourth, what do you think and feel about God?
Last, what do you think and feel that God thinks and feels about you?
We realize you might answer these questions differently as you think, for example, about different people. What you want to identify, however, is your overall thought patterns.
1) What do you think and feel about yourself? (such as "I don't trust myself") ... Place an “X” anywhere from the far left, toward the middle, or to the far right.
Mistrusting Trusting
0 ----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- 10
Unsafe Safe
0 ----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- 10
Rejected Loved
0 ----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- 10
Insecure Secure
0 ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------ 10
Inadequate Adequate
0 ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------ 10
Self-Doubt Self-Confidence
0 ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------ 10
Dependent Independent
0 ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------ 10
Invisible Visible
0 ----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- 10
Passive Assertive
0 ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------ 10
Guilty/Shameful Worthy
0 ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------ 10
Unaware of Gifts Aware of Gifts
0 ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------ 10
Insignificant Significant
0 ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------ 10
Disrespected Respected
0 ----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- 10
Isolated Connected
0 ----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- 10
Irrelevant Influential
0 ----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- 10
Hopeless Hopeful
0 ----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- 10
2) What do you think and feel towards others? (such as: "I don't trust others", “I often feel unsafe around others”) ... Place the letter “X” anywhere from the far left, toward the middle, or to the far right.
Mistrusting Trusting
0 ----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- 10
Unsafe Safe
0 ----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- 10
Rejected Loved
0 ----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- 10
Insecure Secure
0 ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------ 10
Inadequate Adequate
0 ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------ 10
Self-Doubt Self-Confidence
0 ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------ 10
Dependent Independent
0 ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------ 10
Invisible Visible
0 ----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- 10
Passive Assertive
0 ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------ 10
Guilty/Shameful Worthy
0 ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------ 10
Unaware of Gifts Aware of Gifts
0 ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------ 10
Insignificant Significant
0 ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------ 10
Disrespected Respected
0 ----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- 10
Isolated Connected
0 ----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- 10
Irrelevant Influential
0 ----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- 10
Hopeless Hopeful
0 ----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- 10
3) What do think and feel that others think and feel about you? (such as: "They don't trust me") … Place the letter “X” anywhere from the far left, toward the middle, or to the far right.
Mistrusting Trusting
0 ----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- 10
Unsafe Safe
0 ----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- 10
Rejected Loved
0 ----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- 10
Insecure Secure
0 ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------ 10
Inadequate Adequate
0 ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------ 10
Self-Doubt Self-Confidence
0 ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------ 10
Dependent Independent
0 ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------ 10
Invisible Visible
0 ----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- 10
Passive Assertive
0 ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------ 10
Guilty/Shameful Worthy
0 ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------ 10
Unaware of Gifts Aware of Gifts
0 ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------ 10
Insignificant Significant
0 ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------ 10
Disrespected Respected
0 ----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- 10
Isolated Connected
0 ----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- 10
Irrelevant Influential
0 ----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- 10
Hopeless Hopeful
0 ----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- 10
4) What do you think and feel about God? (such as: "I don't trust Him") … Place the letter “X” anywhere from the far left, toward the middle, or to the far right.
Mistrusting Trusting
0 ---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- 10
Unsafe Safe
0 ---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- 10
Rejected Loved
0 ---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- 10
Inadequate Adequate
0 ----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- 10
Self-Doubt Self-Confidence
0 ----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- 10
Dependent Independent
0 ----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- 10
Invisible Visible
0 ---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- 10
Passive Assertive
0 ----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- 10
Guilty/Shameful Worthy
0 ----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- 10
Unaware of Gifts Aware of Gifts
0 ----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- 10
5) What do you think and feel God thinks and feels about you? (such as: "He doesn’t trust me") … Place the letter “X” anywhere from the far left, toward the middle, or to the far right.
Mistrusting Trusting
0 --------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- 10
Unsafe Safe
0 ---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- 10
Rejected Loved
0 ---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- 10
Insecure Secure
0 ---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- 10
Inadequate Adequate
0 ----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- 10
Self-Doubt Self-Confidence
0 ----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- 10
Dependent Independent
0 ----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- 10
Invisible Visible
0 ---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- 10
Passive Assertive
0 ---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- 10
Guilty/Shameful Worthy
0 ---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- 10
Unaware of Gifts Aware of Gifts
0 ----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- 10
Adapted from Erikson's "Psychosocial Stages of Development"
PAUSE AND REFLECT!
* Note those thoughts and feelings that tend to be positive or negative in the way you answered these questions…
What do you think and feel about yourself?
What do you think and feel towards others?
What do think and feel others think and feel about you?
What do you think and feel about God?
What do you think and feel God thinks and feels about you?
- What are your basic core beliefs about these questions and the answers you have come to believe?
- Are you surprised by your responses?
- How have these beliefs impacted your everyday life?
As we continue in Comfort.Guide, listen carefully as to how God wants to transform and heal the negative thoughts with His comfort, while at the same time reinforcing the positive thoughts. If you are keeping a journal, this is the type of information you want to have!
Now that you have finished the worksheet, it’s a great time to talk with Jesus about what has become clearer to you. As you do this, remember that He is with you, He sees you, He hears your call for help, He understands you with deep empathy, and His heart of Love intervenes to work all things together for good.
And a good conversation goes both ways, so be sure to then listen for all the insights He has for you! He will make the Scriptures you need come alive, He may use songs, He may use images, He may use "word-pictures", etc., all prepared especially for you and only you at this time of your healing and growth!
Hear yourself, and Him, clearly!
Click HERE to go to "Week 14 Outline"
Click HERE to go to "A Father's Delight".