WORKSHEET

"Identifying Loss of Human Core Needs - Must & Should"
 
A "WORKSHEET" is simply a way for you to look squarely at yourself and see where you are.  Like a GPS system in your car or in your phone, you have to know where you're at, honestly, clearly and completely. 

At the beginning of these worksheets, take time to pause and quiet yourself.  This is a great time for reflection as to how to care for yourself.  Ask the Holy Spirit for inspiration and insight as you work through this worksheet. 

Worksheets can be printed so you can reflect on them later, or perhaps your device has the ability to make notes right on the Worksheet page, then you can save the Worksheet in your device for later review.

In this page, we are taking a reading from our Tool Kit (see above tab) and highlighting it here as well.

In the following checklist you will find frequent, yet little recognized, thoughts and feelings that are sources of stress for many people.  Do some sound familiar?  Note that the following reflect trying to "fulfill" our human core needs in our own strength.  These thoughts and feelings are discussed throughout Comfort.Guide.


The goal here is to become AWARE of the way you think and feel having experienced the loss of "human core needs" (such as safety; a feeling of being seen, known and loved; to be of worth and value; to have a sense of belonging; and to be effective and have purpose in my life).  Do the following sound familiar?


I learned that in order to be loved, to feel safe and to feel accepted, I must/should:
* Have everyone's approval
* Please everyone
* Take care of everyone
* Be perfect
* Be attractive
* Be "nice"
 
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I learned that to be "enough", able, and of worth, I must/should:
* Have a "perfect" life (house, education, career, children, appearance.....)
* Be the caretaker of everyone else
* Be in control
* Be dependent
* Be independent
 
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I learned that to be both safe and significant, I must/should:
* Never trust anyone
* Never admit to having needs
* Never share vulnerable feelings
* Never play
* Never let down my guard
* Never hope too much
* Have a significant relationship with someone else
* Be strong and powerful
* Have a significant job
 
Anything else that would apply to your particular situation?

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